Success Tip - Holiday Survival |
Holiday Eating The key to maintaining healthy eating habits is to focus or tune into your body's signals of hunger and fullness. Relax your attitude about food and the holidays won't be a problem! Easily said, right? Think about it. Are you uptight about food? Are you so afraid of starving that you are stuffing yourself as if you'll never eat again? Or, are you eating to control emotions, such as anger or happiness, or to cover up social anxiety? Take back your power! When you eat because you are afraid of not having enough, you're giving the power and control to the fear. Remember that you can eat any time you wish. Stuffing yourself now will not keep you free from hunger in the future. So, enjoy your food. Let your body tell you when it has had enough. Pay attention to your taste buds and your stomach to find out what and how much to eat. Eating to control emotions or to mask social anxiety also gives your power away. You may think that you are in control - but it is the thing you fear that really controls your actions. Learn to live with and deal with your emotions. If you catch yourself "shoveling it in," stop and ask yourself what is going on. If you need help or are having trouble getting your power back consider counseling. What about parties? Plan to be moderately hungry and allow yourself to eat. If you eat a meal before going to the party, you may feel deprived at the party. Enjoy the foods you want to eat in moderation. If you don't eat at the party, you may be setting yourself up to overeat when you get home. Learning to listen to your body can seem difficult, especially if you aren't accustomed to your body's signals. A good way to start is to take a deep breath and ask yourself "What is this sensation? What does it mean? Am I hungry? Do I really want to eat this?" Love yourself enough to say yes when you feel like saying yes and no when you feel like saying no. Knowing you can relax and trust yourself around food is important. Holiday Stress It's your perception of an event (what you think about it) that triggers your response. If you change your thoughts (for example, from obstacle to challenge, from unforgivable delay for a chance to take a break), your response will change. Holidays are great times for family conflicts, perhaps because of the emotions and expectations we all have during this time of year. If there is someone with whom you have an on-going problem, such as a family member who instigates the same argument every time you see him, try this: When he start his behavior, you stop. Stop for a moment; take a breath, and response by remaining silence or walking away. Think of the interaction as a game (albeit subconscious) that this person wants to play with you. You do not want to play anymore, so walk away, or change the subject. The other person will resist, but eventually he will stop. (A good book on the subject of family interactions, especially issues of anger, is the Dance of Anger.) A good technique for calming down is to go to a quiet place. Sit comfortably and close your eyes. Remember a time when you were relaxed, comfortable and at peace with yourself. Go back to that time in your mind. Hear the sounds, see what you saw, experience the feelings again. If you can't think of a time when you were totally relaxed and at peace with yourself, make it up. Imagine what it would be like if you were comfortable, relaxed and at peace. Other things you can do to relieve stress include:
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